Recently I was having a conversation with a friend who has been unlucky in love.
We all know what that feels like and one of the things that came to light during an angel card reading is “twin flames”. This was a first for me, so I did what anyone else would do, I plugged ‘”twin flames” into Google and waited. The explanation confused me even more. So a few days later I was scrolling through my news feed on Facebook and spotted a post about this very subject. It was written by Eartha Kitt and read, “it’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit”.
Finally it all made sense. For a long time I’ve believed that it’s best to look for someone to “compliment” you rather than “complete” you. The latter is a mistake that many of us make and can sometimes result in one person blaming the other for their unhappiness. The ability to be happy lies within each of us, it’s our responsibility alone.
The other common mistake that many of us make when looking for “Mr or Mrs Right” is that we say one thing and do another. Back in the early 2000’s I was having a conversation with a girlfriend who was complaining that she wanted to settle down and have children, but she kept meeting guys who were “commitment-phobes”. What she didn’t realise was that although she said she wanted a committed relationship, inwardly, she was scared to death about what that meant. I raised this with her and lo and behold, just two weeks later she introduced me to her new boyfriend, who she later married and they are about to welcome their second child into the world.
Things can change really quickly when we open our minds and welcome new ideas. Love is just around the corner.